More Stories About Tipping

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Our latest podcast, “Should Tipping Be Banned?,” has stirred up a lot of response. Below are a few interesting e-mails from listeners. First one is from Spencer Doren:

Like Levitt, tipping makes me uncomfortable. He’ll be happy to know that Sushi Yasuda (my favorite sushi in NYC) doesn’t accept tips in order to stay true to Japanese tradition. In Japan, tipping isn’t practiced as it is considered rude.

A listener named Heather Rush doesn’t like tipping reform at all (and plainly didn’t know me back when I bussed tables, and worse):

As someone who has spent her whole life working in an industry that offers servers no job security, tolerates rampant sexual harassment, long unregulated work days and no fringe benefits, your suggestion that tipping should be banned because it’s unfair seems trite. Try standing on wet mats for 12 hours while enduring abusive customers, crooked managers, criminal owners, no sick leave, no unemployment and no job security and then I’ll listen to your musings on what the real value of a tip is to the people that served you dinner. Until your first bus-boy shift, however, perhaps you ought to research the real cost of service and why people are content to ignore the “unfairness” of an entire industry so long as their drinks and appetizers arrive on time.

The most expansive response to date is from Kasim Cody Sulaimana:

First let me give you a little background on myself.  I am 32 years old, Jamaican/Malawian male (so people view me as African-American when they see me).  My parents met while they were in graduate school and both of them are immigrants.  My father is a nuclear engineer and my mother was an economist.  I mention my father’s job because it influenced where I grew up.  I grew up for 8 years in Seoul Korea, 2 in New York, 2 in Malawi, 2 in Jamaica, 2 in Arizona and 2 in Chicago.  I also traveled a lot growing up. I  graduated from UoI with an Economics major and a comp sci/stat minor… and I also have a graduate degree in Health Informatics. I currently work at WebMD as a Product Manager.  Ok, so with that out of the way let’s get onto the info!
I was really listening intently to your podcast because it is something I had thought about constantly in college.  While in college at the University of Illinois Champaign-Urbana, I worked at Jimmy Johns.  Jimmy Johns is essentially a fast food restaurant that sells subs.  I worked primarily as a delivery driver.  I was paid minimum wage, and the majority of my money would come from tips.  I did this for about a year.  One thing I was keenly made aware of very early on was that different races/genders tipped very differently.
Your podcast caught my ear when you were trying to figure out why sometimes Latinos and Asians show up tipping less than whites, and why they sometimes break even and I am pretty sure I know why.  (I have no statistical evidence to back me up so bear with me)  I would point to the groups within the racial group.  There is a big difference between an Asian (let’s say Korean) who is native first-generation from Korea, and an American-born one.  They do not share the same views on a wide range of topics and are almost night and day different.  The American-born one will generally share the same thoughts about tipping as American whites do in the U.S., while the native Korean will not.  Essentially the ones that have been assimilated into American culture (by birth mainly) share the ideas of tipping.
I saw the constantly at Jimmy Johns more so than the professional degree.  Middle Eastern doctors would not tip or would barely tip at all (the ones not from here) whereas their counterparts who were American-born would tip well.  College kids in general tipped me well.  The same went with Koreans.  Native Koreans would not tip, whereas the younger Koreans tipped just fine.  Within each culture there is that divide that separates what each does and each others view on tipping.
My father doesn’t tip unless he absolutely has to … and it took him awhile to get to that point (he is from Malawi).
In a summary, here is what I came to at Jimmy Johns (no stats to back it up, just what I saw)
1. Whites tip better than blacks by far.
2. Generally no extra tip for increased speed of delivery unless you get there really fast.
3. Decreased tip for really bad speed of delivery or faulty product.
4. On super large orders (over $300) it depends on which profession.  Doctors routinely gave $3 tips on a $500 order whereas delivering that same order to any other large group would net close to a $40-50 tip.
5. When dealing with minorities (Middle Eastern, Latino, Asian) it depends on if they are first-gen or native born.  Native-born tip nice, 1st-gens do not.
6. Lawyers tip well
7. Women tip me better than men
8. I’ve actually found that for well-off people, I am more likely to be stiffed on tip than I am by poor people.  Poor will still give me something  but it was very highly likely that the really well off would leave no tip.
In a nutshell I would challenge you to look at each subculture rather than the entire racial group as a whole.  I think your findings would become more consistent.  Thanks and I hope this helps! 


As a student, I worked in many ethnic restaurants. I should clarify I am from Montreal, Quebec, a French city in Canada. French people were actually the worst tippers. Black guys always left the best tips and white girls rarely tips. Now that I am a nurse, I get tipped in coffee and donuts, just as valuable as money


Does Heather realise that tipping isn't standard the world over yet the job of serving of food food etc is cross cultural and having worked similar jobs in the uk where tipping outside of formal restaurants is rare and I say: tough, tipping is still wrong and done in America to the point of absurdity.

It's all ingrained cultural attitudes to certain jobs. I bet she wouldn't tip at McDonald's. They famously started off by accepting no tips but haven't advertised that in decades because it is the norm for that place now. They work just as hard as servers in other places just in a slightly different way so why do you feel ok about not tipping there. Is it just because you pay first?

RJ Roy

In addition, while a lot of those shitty conditions are a part of the industry as a whole, I believe that some of them are MORE prevalient in tipping-based jobs, as the understanding there became "Well, we're paying you little, and not giving you benefits, but that's because tips MIGHT MAYBE be way more then what we're paying you. You can just handle that other stuff yourself, then, right?"

And that's where the idea of tipping being unfair comes from.


This reminds me of the scene from Reservoir Dogs (warning: language)


While most people will tip the standard 15 to 20%, there will always be people who will tip nothing. The problem with tipping is that it can't be forced unless it is a large group. You are still depending on people to be generous and some just aren't. I would rather have a livable wage than depend on people's generosity.

Mike B

From the customer's perspective tipping functions as a hidden fee in the same way Spirit airlines can have low fares yet wind up costing more than average because they get people on the back end. Yes it is technically optional, but there are all sorts of mechanisms including cultural norms and implied threats (watch Curb your Enthusiasm), that enforce it. It's irritating not to be able to easily determine prices by looking at the menu and I'm sure its intentional to get people in the door with a low list price and then pull a psychological switcheroo with a hidden fee.

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I don't think Heather's thought this through.

Right now, she's putting up with a lot of structural crap (pathetic nominal wage, no sick leave, no benefits, customers who feel their tip entitles them to act like jerks, etc.) to get the tip.

Would she work this job if it weren't for the money currently paid as tips? No. Would *anyone* put up with this? No.

So if tipping were banned, what would happen? The job wouldn't go away, because the restaurant owners need people to do this work. The job also wouldn't be paid at the current pathetic nominal wage, because nobody would take the job at that price. Instead, the compensation structure would change. The hourly wage would go up. Paid sick leave and paid vacation would be added (they're not offered now, because the customers are mostly paying you, not the restaurant). Customers might even feel like they weren't entitled to abuse the staff, since they weren't paying you directly.

So to the Heathers of the US: if you want a better wage, paid sick leave, and other benefits, then campaign for the end of tipping.


Caleb B

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Yes, yes. If you just eliminated tipping then restaurants will give everybody the same wage they are making with tips, including the gross-up needed bc they don't pay taxes on all their tips....they'd get paid sick time, paid vacation, 401(k),, it will be utopia if we just got rid of tips.

Somehow, it has been the tipping that has been the reason unskilled labor with zero educational requirements and no barrier to entry have not had fringe benefits. I guess all those Wal-Mart cashiers are really glad they don't get tips!!!


Fascinating that Kasim touches on the reasons we shouldn't assume all racial groups are not monolithic... and then goes on to talk about different demographic groups as if they were.


I think his point is that it depends on culture, not racial/ethnic demographic factors. If you were an American kid raised poor and a good ways back in the hills, and so had never eaten in a restaurant until you went off to college/military, how would you learn when & how much to tip? Might you not be puzzled to see people leaving money on the tables when they've finished eating?


Moved to Miami a few months ago, and one interesting thing I've noticed here seems to support Kasim's comments. There's a lot of Europeans and South American visitors here, particularly in Miami Beach. Its nothing to go for a walk and hear people walking by speaking German, French, Spanish, English, and a variety of other languages I can't identify all in one 15 minute stroll.

Tipping is very different in both Europe (where not tipping is the norm where I've visited) and South America (where 5-10% can be quite generous and its not really expected).

Most restaurants here that cater to tourists or visitors have a service charge of 18% added to the bill. But if you keep visiting places and start to find more "locals" places, they don't have a service charge. I even know some places that add a service charge if they don't know you.

Again, no data, but it seems that the service industry here has noticed the same things that Kasim noted and has reacted.



I think the movie "Waiting" really sums up the serving experience.


I think Kasim, the 3rd emailer, is using his terminology incorrectly. Either that, or I've been using it incorrectly. Isn't "first generation" the same as "native born"? For instance, my parents were born in Hungary and emigrated to the US; I was then born in the US. That makes me "first generation", right?


For me, first-generation is the first set of people who live in the US. For many, they immigrate, they work for awhile, then they become citizens. They are the first generation of American citizens in their line. See the definition of "Nisei" as it relates to Japanese-Americans. It literally means "second generation". The definitions say their parents were born in Japan.


When I was in college, I would Valet cars in Florida, I would bring home about 200$ cash for about 6 hours of work (33$ per hour). However, I also worked as a Graduate assistant, I would make around 18$ per hour if you count tution re-embursment. Since I was an economics student, this baffled me that in one job, I essentially just moved cars 100 feet and got paid about 50% more, than in my other job that I would grade papers/ tutor students/ help with research, which seemed far more important.

The Economics GA position required that I had an BA in economics and actively pursuing a Masters Degree in Economics (pretty steep requirement). The Valet job required only that I could drive a stick shift transmition and had a clean driving record (very low job requirement). To this day, the only way I can explain the difference in wage is that tipping was the key factor.


As a man who has dated a handful of women who have worked as bartenders -- tipping is obnoxious and unfair. That's just the facts. Why do people choose a tip-subsidized profession? It pays more for less work and requires little skill. Ask people in Portland, Oregon -- where they get paid $9 an hour and make tips. The bartender at my favorite watering hole makes more money than I do and is considerably less skilled. She also works fewer hours and has no degree. Those aren't direct correlations but it begs the questions: "Who is in favor of tipping and why?"

The answer is simple: those who receive tips because it benefits them financially.

That being said -- I dated a single mom for a while and it was the perfect career for her -- and an argument can be made that these types of jobs serve a vital social role. She made $40k a year -- a majority of it tax fee -- got to spend days with her son and was able to set up childcare easily with friends/family/me because she worked nights. But -- she dealt with shady, smelly, horney guys all night and had no job security.

I'm torn on the issue and still always tip $1 per drink or 20% -- but this is an interesting issue -- nice work, gents.



Just a minor thing to add, but typically when an American asks why you don't tip in Japan, people who understand American culture will say it's rude. It's partly true, but that statement has more to do with assuaging the guilty consciences of Americans. Tipping in Japan is mostly just weird. Servers understand that service is included in the price, and if you leave behind money they'll attempt to return it to you. If you give it them directly, servers will assume you're confused and try to give it back. If you insist, it all becomes pretty troublesome. They might be worried that other customers (or a manager!) will see them accepting money they didn't earn.

Having tried to give that long explanation on family members, I found them still trying to tip here in Tokyo. So then I told them tipping is rude. That worked.


You're forgetting an important group - babysitters. I asked my daughter what she's been making babysitting. She told me it varies from $50 to $100. A hundred dollars for a few hours of babysitting? Why so much, I asked her? It depends on how drunk they are, she said. (Her sister said the same thing.)


I used to work delivering pizzas in the UK. What I fond was that the bigger the house the smaller the tip. People in social housing would always tip something. The big houses wouldn't tip at all, which was a pain as their houses were further away and took longer to deliver.

You don't get rich by giving your money away.

Mary B

Heather says...
"As someone who has spent her whole life working in an industry that..." really sucks, I paraphrase.

Perhaps Heather should get a a job in a better industry or at least one where she respects. I did five years hard time in fast food and she's right, it sucked. So I moved on and started working in local TV news. That was worse ! And it was an industry in decline. So, after ten years, I saved my money and started a business. Now I love my job even though it's tough.

Heather is falling into the trap of blaming the world instead of just doing something about it.