The Laws of Attraction

(Photo: al fernandez)

(Photo: al fernandez)

The BPS Research Digest offers a quick guide to the psychology and science of human attraction.  Their dating suggestions — based on real studies — are:

  • Dress like the person you want to date.
  • Use the power of touch.
  • Use a popular pseudonym. 
  • Wear red.
  • Make strategic use of mimicry and temperature.
  • You are not hot as you think when you’re drunk.
  • Make strategic use of your friends.
  • A flashy car can make a good impression.
  • Avoid cheesy chat-up lines. 
  • Finally, don’t take these tips too seriously. They could backfire.

And a final piece of advice: “If your dating efforts prove unsuccessful (even with the help of these top-secret psychology-based tips!) and you’re feeling lonely, try holding a teddy bear. Science says it will help.”

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  1. Dr. Jo says:

    Use a pseudonym? A *popular* pseudonym? What does that mean?

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    • Rubber Duck says:

      popular pseudonym works every time for me, honey :)

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    • Allen says:

      A pseudonym… like Carlos Danger!

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      • J1 says:

        Just know where to stop. Cool pseudonym fine, naked photos of yourself not so much. In the immortal words of Elaine Benes, “naked is not a good look for a man”. Also, don’t tell women you’re hitting on about your wife.

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    • Joe J says:

      They are partially talking about in on-line dating.
      Someone with the on line name ‘Rubber Duck’ would do better than ‘HitlerLover’.
      But this also gets into real names.

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  2. Ron H says:

    So I should dress like a beautiful woman?

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  3. James says:

    I can’t help but be skeptical about some of these. I mean, dress like the person I want to date? Sorry, honey, but short-shorts and a halter top are SO not me :-)

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    • tom says:

      They mean don’t wear a suit if you’re dating a goth chick and don’t wear a wife-beater when dating a Fortune 500 exec…

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      • James says:

        Well, there’s the problem: I’m supposed to guess at what they mean, even when it isn’t what they actually said?

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  5. RGJ says:

    Largely intuitive stuff there. Wear red, sit in my Bentley, and do the mimicry thing. Yeah, we know.

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  6. Caleb b says:

    Reminds me of the SNL skit with Tom Brady and “How to avoid sexual harassment in the office.” All the women were in love with Brady’s good looks so he could do anything he wanted and no one complained. Fred Armisen couldn’t even look at a woman without them calling HR. “Be attractive, be good-looking, be handsome.” thanks for the advice.

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  7. obusma says:

    “A flashy car can make a good impression…” on the kind of person I’m not interested in.

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  8. Víctor says:

    A Teddy Bear? ohh, what an awful advice!

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