My son Andrew died six years ago today

My son Andrew died six years ago today. He had just turned one.

He was born just as the leaves were turning. He died just as the leaves were turning.

We played a song from the musical Rent at his memorial service. It always makes us think of him. It goes, in part, like this.

525,600 minutes.
525,600 moments so dear.
525,600 minutes.
How do you measure, measure a year?

In diapers, report cards, in spoked wheels, and speeding tickets.
In contracts, dollars, in funerals and births

525,600 minutes.
525, 600 journeys to plan.
525,600 minutes.
How do you measure the life of a woman or man?

How about love? How about love? How about love?
Measure in love.
Seasons of love.

We miss you, Andrew. And we wonder every day
what you would be doing, what you would be like.

Andrew George Levitt, Oct. 14,1998-Oct. 23, 1999


Gringo_Nordestino

My, and my families prayers are with you

gumballs

May Andrew's spirit be with you and your family throughout life. Your tribute was very touching and perhaps an inspiration for those of us who one day may mourn the loss of a child.

lawyer-now-teacher

To my new friend in grief,

My two-year-old son died on 12/14/1997. You are not alone in your grief. My wife, son and I decided not to be defined by our loss and the accompanying pain, but by our coping with the loss.

JEM

aaronescott

I wish there were something moving and encouraging that I could say. There is not. It is surely the deepest loss that a human can suffer. I can only take refuge in the promise that Jesus made that He would come again...and seal that He set to those word: "If it were not so, I would have told you."

Andrew, you are not forgotten by your father...and now you are part of our memories, as well....

aaronescott

I wish there were something moving and encouraging that I could say. There is not. It is surely the deepest loss that a human can suffer. I can only take refuge in the promise that Jesus made that He would come again...and the seal that He set to those words: "If it were not so, I would have told you."

Andrew, you are not forgotten by your father...and now you are part of our memories, as well....

janette callaby

I had an Andrew too. He died this January 2007 with Wilson's Disease. He tried so hard to stay here but he caught a super bug. It does'nt matter if your Andrew was 1 year old or that my Andrew was 29 years old they were very special because they were our children. God bless you. Sincerely,
Andrew's mum.

dbest

your poem is moving . . . i'm very sorry for your loss . . . my son died January 16, 2006 . . . God bless you!

Karen

I am sorry for the loss of your sweet baby boy. He was a cutie! We have an angel in Heaven named Teagyn. Jan 8th will be her three year "angel" day. God Bless

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Maamu Lelevaga

He is beatiful, I just lost my only daughter at 9 years old. She passed away November 10,2007 of a brain anerysum. I still can't over the pain of losing her and I can understand what you going through. Til today I'm still confused about everything....God Bless

Ron Blondeel

This Feb,17/08 is 5 years since we lost our son in a car acedent he woild have been 28 years young we still ask why him he was a son that had given so much to so many people he loved life he loved us his heart was has big as he was 6ft.4in he was a great driver but that night on a snowy icey road he lost control and slid onto coming trafac and in a split second he was gone, I new before he died he was deid I felt a terable feeling in heart just like now he had so much more to give just like all the childern before him I hope that God is taking good care of his little angles for one day i would like to meet them all. God Bless All of you who has lost a loved one.I feel you pain & anger.
Yours Truly
Ron B.

Barbara

My husbands 18 yr old daughter just died a few hours ago in a car accident. He was separated from her by divorce since a young age and their relationship was "just beginning to bloom."
We are 1/2 the United States away from Oregon where she died. My husband travels alot on business. He just called to tell me the news from Atlanta (I'm in IL).
To those of you that have lost a daughter or son, what can I do to support him??? He is absolutely devasted.

Vittoria

My aunt Rita died two years ago on June 21st and she died from brest canser and the whole family is still a little satunned but we all keep here in our hearts and will never ever forget the times we had together...also she is now laying in rest up above hoping that one day we will see her once again!!

Reah

Hello,

I wish Andrew would know that at my school choir we performed Seasons of Love. We're going to perform it this Friday. I'll be thinking of him.

The world loves and misses your Andrew.

Andy

I am 14 and my 15 year old friend died 1 month and 3 days ago. How do I go on. I am very sorry for you loss. R.I.P Andrew and Nick Bailey

Ben Casnocha: The Blog

On Grief

I've been thinking a lot about grief. I've never felt the deep, searing grief that is only associated with death. Why? No one super close to me has ever died. I've been to one funeral in my life. I know

Andi

Such a beautiful baby boy.

Thank you for sharing his photo.

Princess Leia

Perfect song. I like that one, too. My deepest sympathies then and now.

StCheryl

I am deeply sorry about Andrew's death. Reading about it in the NY Times Magazine article in 2003, and your openness in talking about him, have moved me over and over again. I admire your ability to talk about him -- it is healthy, respectful, loving and very much opposed to the way most of us think about death, particularly the death of a child. As the parent of a young child, I worry at times about sudden, unexplained illness, and wonder how I would react. It seems that the grief would be unbearable. We went through a lot to have our son, and at times told by internationally-recognized experts that our case was hopeless. Every day with him is a gift, and being a member of this web community reminds me of that. Thank you for trusting us.

ginquiry

Thank you for sharing Andrew with us. And for reminding me, again, why your Freakonomics site is such a wonderful place to "enter".

deckard1982

My prayers are with you today, Steven.